Good advice succeeds only in “right circumstances” and when directed to “a listening ear.”
Listening long enough will help us hear the real statement or question and to uncover the feeling behind it. Unfortunately, many of us are too preoccupied with ourselves when we listen. Instead of concentrating on what is being said, we are busy either deciding what to say in response or mentally rejecting the other person’s point of view.
I’m learning to put myself aside when I listen.
In order to improve, I’ve asked those I work with to help me by pointing out times when I fail to listen. I also use the time driving home from work to review the day. Thinking back through my encounters with others at the office, over the phone, at lunch. I make mental notes of situations I bungled, times when I failed to listen. Reliving the conversations and mentally phrase the questions I wish I had asked, the responses I wish I had given. This mental practice prepares me for the next time.
HIGH-QUALITY LISTENING BRINGS GOOD RESULTS. BUT IT TAKES AN AWARENESS OF HOW MUCH PEOPLE NEED TO BE LISTENED TO, PLUS TIME AND PRACTICE.
Read the blog: WHY YOUR ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING? HOW TO KEEP IT POSITIVE?